When You Feel Unloveable

“God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8 ESV

We’ve all felt unloved and/or unloveable at one time or another.

But we must always remind ourselves that – no matter what – God always loves us!

It’s hard to comprehend the enormity of God’s love, isn’t it?  I’m so grateful that He wants us to grasp how wide and long and high and deep His love is.  This amazing verse from Romans gives us another aspect of His love. 

God gave his Son to die for us, not because we deserve it, but just because he loves us that much. If you ever doubt that God loves you, remember that Jesus died for you before you were even born.  He saw our sin, but His pure and mighty love covered over it. 

Jesus didn’t die on the cross to make us “lovable.”  He sacrificed Himself because we were already so abundantly loved! 

Then why do we sometimes feel unlovable? 

I was never fooled by that old adage- sticks and stones may break my bones, but name-calling certainly does hurt. I was a tall and skinny gal as long back as I can remember.  I couldn’t help but look in the mirror and see their hurtful names were correct.

I have felt judged by life’s circumstances as well.  Divorced, single parent, even remarrying brought out comments, whispers, and exclusions from groups.  Many times, it was fellow Christians making me feel “less than.” Ouch.

Are you feeling “less than”, unlovable, discouraged, worthless, lonely, or rejected?  

Maybe it’s from the soundtrack we tell ourselves.  Do past mistakes, failures, or sins have you believing you are not desirable and not worthy of love?

No matter what we feel, there is an undeniable fact that should drown out that tired soundtrack.

“Though our feelings come and go, God’s love for us does not.” C.S. Lewis

He showed us His great love in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for you and me.

We don’t have to rely on our feelings or keep our fingers crossed or whisper “I hope He loves me.”  Our doubts and feelings can be erased because Jesus showed His love for us with His actions.  There is no greater proof than that!  

No amount of name-calling, past behaviors, or life’s circumstances can ever take that away from us.

In those times when we feel unlovable, we have to remind ourselves that those feelings stem from someone else’s opinions and our own fluctuating self-esteem. And then we must move on to the truth:

You are a precious child of God. You can depend on His exquisite love regardless of what you look like, say, or do. He says you are loved and chosen, His unique masterpiece.  You are accepted and redeemed by Him, treasured, protected, and forgiven. Nothing can change those facts or take them away from you.

At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is what God thinks of you!  Reflect on these truths regularly and fully embrace who He says you are- His beloved child.

Prayer When You Feel Unlovable

Heavenly Father,

I’m hurting, Lord.  I know the words and actions of others shouldn’t affect me, but they do.  Help me let go of the hurt feelings and sadness. Open my eyes to see where the unlovable lie is coming from and banish it from my life. I pray that I would understand in my heart, soul, and mind your great love for me. Grow your truths and promises deeply into my heart so I feel loved and gathered into your embrace every day. I want to live in your glorious love Lord. Thank you that your love is not something I have to earn, but can just accept and rest in. Give me your strength to turn to your love for healing and contentment.

I ask all these things in the precious name of Jesus, 


He wants you to always remember how valuable you are to Him! Learn to truly embrace your Identity in Christ!

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