7 Reasons You Need Godly Friendships

Who is the first person you call when you receive exciting news?  Whose shoulder do you cry on when your heart is broken?  Who makes you laugh, brings you ice cream when you are stressed, or coffee when your newborn has you up all night?  We all need godly friendships and I’m abundantly thankful for the women God has put in my life!

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Are Friendships a Gift From God?

When looking at His beautiful creation, God saw Adam and said that it is not good for man to be alone.  I have often used this as a marriage verse but I believe God created us to live in communities, to join together in relationships, and to support and love one another as we journey the ups and downs of life.

God knows that navigating this sinful world can be hard.  He wants to provide us support systems that point the way to Him.  He knows there will be great sorrow as the result of the fall and He wants us to not only walk with Him but also supply godly friendships to carry us through.

The Bible has a lot to say about godly friendships and why we should purue them.

What Does the Bible Say about Friendships

Friendships are important to living as God intended. It is important, however, to point out Scripture that helps us discern between good and negative types of friendships and how pursuing the wrong types of friends can pull us away from God.

Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man do not go, Lest you learn his ways and set a snare for your soul. Proverbs 22:24-25 NKJV

Friends influence us whether we want them to or not.  If we often associate with angry people who lose their temper on a regular basis, we will learn bad habits from them.  I find this also applies to speech.  When we spend time with someone prone to gossip or swearing, we will also find ourselves losing control of our tongues.

Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.” 1 Corinthians 15:33

I’m sure we can all look back over our lives and see that when we were getting into trouble, we were rarely alone!

I love the teaching on this topic by Time of Grace entitled Friend Request: Choose Friends Carefully.

Characteristics of a Good Friend According to the Bible

Now that we’ve heard a couple of warnings about friends, let’s talk about choosing good friends!  What is a godly friend?  Look for these characteristics:

  • They treat you well Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering.”  (Colossians 3:12)
  • They help you through the hard times “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:2)
  • They pray for you “Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another that you may be healed.”  (James 5:16)
  • They point you to Christ “but exhort one another daily.” (Hebrews 3:13)
  • They do not expect something in return “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not [b]puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth”  (1 Corinthians 13:4-6)
  • They are truly happy for you when you are rejoicing.  Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.  (Romans 12:15)
  • They are good listeners. So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.  (James 1:19)
  • They forgive when you mess up. Forgiveness is a tough one!  “bearing with one another, and forgiving one another if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.  (Colossians 3:13)

Why Do We Need Godly Friends in Our Life

Now to the real meat of this post.  Why do we need spiritual friends?  What do they fulfill and how do they bring us closer to God?

We Need Godly Friends for Accountability

Most of us do not like the idea of accountability but the truth is that we need it.  We are not always strong enough to resist temptation nor do we always recognize it.  At times we make poor choices or do not seek God’s will.  That’s called being human.

A real friend will tell you when you are going off track.  They will be kind, patient, and nonjudgemental because they want what is best for you.

Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. Proverbs 27:6

Godly Advice Keeps Us On Track

Have your thoughts ever been muddled due to a troublesome situation and you couldn’t see left from right?  These are the times we need to seek godly counsel from friends who care.  They can see more clearly because they are not emotionally involved.

Ointment and perfume delight the heart, And the sweetness of a man’s friend gives delight by hearty counsel. Proverbs 27:9

Godly Friends Help Us Through the Dark Seasons

I said it earlier, life is hard and we will have seasons in life in which we need godly friendships to lean on.  Whether we are talking about physical labor or emotional and spiritual support, a spiritual friend has your back.

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

Godly Friends Make Us Better People

Spiritual friends make us better people. They guide us when we’ve gone off track, help us to make godly choices, teach us about ourselves, and keep us focused on Christ.

 As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. Proverbs 27:17

Laughing is Good for the Soul

My friends make me laugh!  Nothing relieves stress better than a long, chatty walk or a couple of hours at a coffee shop with my closest peeps.  We laugh, cry, confess our fears, and encourage each other.  Life is just better when you choose godly friends!

A merry heart does good, like medicine, But a broken spirit dries the bones. Proverbs 17:22

We Were Not Created to be Alone

I have a flock of chickens.  These hens are as much a part of our family as our dog. They greet us in the morning and complain to us if they don’t have enough water.  They hang out with me when I’m digging in the garden or flower beds waiting for me to toss them grubs.  One thing you will notice about our feathered friends is they are always scratching around in the grass together.  Rarely are they alone.

They keep an eye out for predators and help each other find the best places to feast.  They were created to live in a community.

People are like that too.  Our needs run a little deeper than instinct, but we were created to live in families, loving and supporting each other spiritually, emotionally, and physically.  Godly friendships are families too.

A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity. Proverbs 17:17

Encouragement Goes Both Ways

A true spiritual friendship will find you both encouraging each other.  There is nothing one-sided about a godly friendship.  You are both there to rejoice with each other and cry together.

And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another. Hebrews 10:24-25

A True Friend Brings You Closer to God

“He is your friend that pushes you closer to God” -Abraham Kuyper

Many times, we have “friends” who are simply people we’ve known for many years or maybe grew up together. Unfortunately, they may not be on the same walk as you are as far as growing closer to God. Pursuing Godly friendship means spending more time investing in those relationships that do bring you closer to God.

In the end, a true friend brings you closer to God.  They know when to lift you up and when to gently discourage you from making a poor choice.  Their honesty and loyalty will keep them close.

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Pray for Godly Friendships

Friendships are such an important part of living a healthy life. We were created to be in community with others and to do life together. Pray that God brings you more godly friendships!

Dear Lord, you know our needs better than we know ourselves.  You know our desire to join together as one body in your name with godly friends.  Friends that lift us up and encourage us, but more than that, friends that lead us closer to you.  Bless our lives with your people and work in our hearts that we may also be the kind of godly friends others need. – Amen!

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